That you are thinking about counseling does NOT necessarily mean there is something wrong with your relationship. Counseling can make a good relationship better. In most areas of life, if you want to be really good at something you seek expertise, a coach, or a mentor. For example, the Red Sox have batting, bench, and first base coaches, to name a few. We take driver’s education to get a license. Watching our parents drive is not enough training to get behind the wheel and hit the road. And yet that, in general, is what we do with relationships.
Avoiding fights, going along to get along, leads to a relationship where less and less is talked about, a relationship that is constricted and unsatisfying. Healthy relationships flow from harmony to disharmony to repair then back to harmony; connection to disconnection to reconnection, rinse and repeat. Good relationships are not those in which “we never fight” or “we agree on everything”.
Why Couples Counseling?
In couples counseling you will learn new tools to address conflicts, repair the disconnects, understand why you might have a hard time actually picking up/using the tools, and overcome those obstacles to create a happier, healthier relationship.
Why work with Patricia?
In addition to 16+ years of counseling experience, I have Master’s Level certification in Relational Life Therapy with Terry Real (see www.TerryReal.com). I was awarded Diplomate and Clinical Mental Health Specialist (DCMHS) in couples and family therapy by the American Mental Health Counselors Association (www.amhca.org ).
I work with heterosexual, same-sex, and culturally/spiritually diverse couples, couples beginning their relationship and couples on the brink of ending it.
A typical session is 50 minutes. Consider scheduling 1.5 hours or 2 hour sessions which will allow us to delve more deeply and effectively into the issues, to practice the skills and get feedback in real time, and perhaps meet less frequently.